That is the headline today on ABC and AP sites.
The top legislative body of the Presbyterian Church (U.S.A.) has voted by large margins to recognize same-sex marriage as Christian in the church constitution, adding language that marriage can be the union of "two people," not just "a man and a woman."
The tide has certainly started moving towards gay marriage being accepted in the Christian church. Wikipedia has a page devoted to denominations and dioceses around the world that bless gay marriages. I'm told by friends both gay and straight outside my church, that I'm "on the wrong side of history". I will try to explain in a non offensive way why I don't care about history.
I love all people. I don't like all people. It appears that most people understand love as like to the extreme. Let's explore that for a moment. Good feelings are like, better feelings are love, and if they're attracted to the person with the better feelings then that is romantic love which could lead to marriage. American law and society was founded on biblical principals. So people who wanted to marry a same sex spouse couldn't. In the last few decades some people both gay and straight have recognized this as discrimination. When it comes to American law, they are correct. Laws were set up to encourage heterosexual people to form hopefully lifelong partnerships that would produce stability and children for the community. They enticed this with tax breaks and positive stigma placed on straight couples. In our new era of enlightenment people have become aware of some tremendous indignities that have been heaped upon gay Americans. Why is their love worse than straight love? The first response was it's all about the children. But psychologists are showing kids raised with 2 dads or 2 moms are no worse for the wear than those raised in traditional homes. Obviously gays are unable to procreate, but there are millions of kids looking to be adopted around the world, so if society would recognize gay marriage and they could get the tax breaks and hospital visits and all the benefits straights have been afforded, they could help adopt these kids, and the world would be a better place. With all of this I agree, which shocks people who know that I'm against gay marriage.
I am only against gay marriage in regards to Christian church. I understand completely the argument that "I was born this way". "Why should I have to change my sexuality to be accepted by Jesus"? The answer is you don't. Jesus accepts all of us as we are. And as we are, is filthy sinners. The thing about Jesus is He wants to change you. He wants you to become like Him. Perfect! It's also impossible to be perfect. If it was possible Jesus wouldn't have had to leave Heaven come to earth, live a perfect life, and then swap His reward for your punishment. So straight people get an easier road to heaven? No. You are completely missing the point. The point is you, me, all of us are broken. Broken in every way. Our attitude on life, food, entertainment, and for this discussion sex. In Mere Christianity CS Lewis describes how men in a strip club must appear to someone from another planet. They must be starving for sex! And yet it's all around us. The bible explains that when Adam and Eve sinned they broke all future generations. One of the consequences is an unhealthy obsession with sex. Sex is a gift from God that we shouldn't be ashamed of, yet the gift is designed for a man and a woman deepen their bond far beyond that of friendship. Yet because it is out of whack all of humankind reports tales of prostitutes and other perversions. We were all "born this way". We all have natural inclinations that rebel against God. Some may still argue "how does me loving another person offend God". The same way "loving yourself" offends God. The same way over eating offends God. The same way not giving your best on your job offends God. He set the standard. Perfection is what He says it is. If you are going to love Jesus, He needs to become your LORD & Savior. If He is your Lord, and He was in the room with you, would you respond differently to His commands? You have to die to yourself every day, I would say every minute. You have the choice to do what Christ commands or do what you want. If you find yourself doing more...or even all of what you want and only keeping the easy for you to keep commands, then how have you changed? As the Bible says If you do good to those who are good to you, what credit is that to you? Even "sinners" do that. -Luke 6:33
Some will misinterpret that as we have to behave better or different to earn our salvation. NO! Your behavior is a result of what is in your heart. The sex act or the cursing or the stealing isn't the offense to God as much as it reveals where your heart is. Will there be a day when homosexuals no longer feel desire for people of the same sex? Maybe. But God wants people to follow Him in spite of their feelings. Paul wrote in the Bible that in order to keep me from becoming conceited, I was given a thorn in my flesh, a messenger of Satan, to torment me. Three times I pleaded with the Lord to take it away from me But he said to me, "My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness." Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ's power may rest on me. Some have speculated that thorn in his flesh was homosexuality. But whatever it was he prayed about it and God wouldn't remove it. Paul lived the rest of his life struggling with something he really didn't want to have to deal with. Obviously a Christian's life then is not supposed to be easy. We are weak and need to recognize that. We are described by Jesus as sheep who can easily be led astray. That's why Jesus stresses we need to spend lots of time with Him getting to recognize His voice. He is the good shepherd who will lay down his life for his sheep. But there are bad shepherd's, who sound similar to Jesus who want to lead his sheep to slaughter. I am afraid the Presbyterians are no longer led by the good shepherd.
Back to my original point on love. Love is a verb, not a feeling. The proof of that is also in the Bible when God declares He so loved the world that He sent His only son to die...Why would God love the world? He documents how the people have hated Him consistently. God doesn't like humans, because we are in open rebellion to Him. God doesn't like the world because as Jesus says Satan is god of this world. But God loves the world and those upon it in all our perversions, and self-centeredness. That's the good news of the Bible! But most of the world hates that news, because it condemns them and their friends and their sweet mom and dad. They're blinded by pride to the good news that Jesus paid the fine for their sin and they can be forgiven. Jesus warned His followers about this too. In John 15:19 He says "The world would love you as one of its own if you belonged to it, but you are no longer part of the world. I chose you to come out of the world, so it hates you".